Sunday, June 26, 2011

top 10 things i have learned in NICU

CLICK HERE to read my top ten list if you want =)

Please keep our Charlotte in your prayers....

Charlotte is doing ok - not bad, not great.  She is stable, but still needs a couple surgeries as well as several tests in the next couple months.  She needs heart surgery before her 2 month old birthday - it is unclear whether she will leave NICU before her surgery.

She still is working on eating from a bottle - about half her minimum is still fed through a tube and she seems to have a little reflux - making it harder for her to gain weight.

As we sit in NICU I am constantly aware of how many countries do not have this care and it is overwhelming and heartbreaking - I know if she had not been born where she is she maybe never would have made it this far.

Please take a moment to pray for our little girl, she is not out of the woods yet, please also pray for the millions of orphans world wide who need a family NOW.


Sunday, June 19, 2011

Welcome Charlotte Elise.....

Our adoption journey took a very sharp turn yesterday....

Please read our story HERE

We'll write more here later, it just seemed silly to write it out twice.

Blessings ~

Friday, June 3, 2011

A little ghost named 'What if' has moved into my house.

As we move on to the next chapter of our adoption (details to come) I can't help but feel haunted by a little girl we had already made a part of our lives.

She will never physically live here, but we have memories of her, and memories of our dreams for her.  We have pictures and little 2T outfits that would have looked really good with her dark blonde hair and big blue eyes with the tags still on them. I found a paper with Oleksandra's region written on it, and the google search still comes up on my computer.  We researched hospitals and surgeons that might help her little hands and feet, and when we hear a name similiar it hits us that all that information is unnecessary now.

I don't just wonder what she is doing now, I am sure she is doing great with her forever family.  But I feel haunted by what she would be doing with us.  We would likely be traveling now (had circumstances been different) and I can't seem to stop my brain from playing over and over again our trip to our son and wonder what might have been the same, what might have been different.

She will just always be 'missing' in our lives.  I know she was not ever ours and won't be, and we accept that.  But there is a weird little ghost of what could have been that just seems to creep up everywhere and bite me right behind the eyes. 

No matter what beautiful chapter lies ahead, Oleksandra won't be there.  I am sure it is a beautiful chapter, a chapter that could not have happened if she was here - and I hope that opening that chapter with all it's beauty and blessings and challenges will allow us to miss her, but realize that this was what was always 'meant to be'. 

I don't know if I am explaining it right, or if I am just being redundant - I'm just saying - the new 'little sister' will not replace her.  When our new little girl comes home (God willing) we will introduce her to her big sister & brother, and we'll still feel Oleksandra is missing from the picture.

There is no way to 'fix it' - it is just what is going on in my brain right now.